How do I know if I really love someone? How do I know if really love my husband, or my kids or my job or my work. How do I know if I really love God. I’ve heard people say, “I really love God. He is my everything.” But how do they know that?
When you really love someone, it’s harder to walk away.
And the deeper you love, the harder it is to STAY away.
Love holds within it a gentle magnetism.
No one can get enough love. It’s the most powerful force in the universe because Love doesn’t fail, it doesn’t waver it has no shadow or variables, it just Loves. That’s how God loves us. God is love.
“And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28
Isn’t this verse amazing! I get goose bumps when I think of how big this is. First, let’s look at a few of the words here. The word “all”. Every time this little word appears in the Bible we must ask ourselves what it means. There are two ways used in the Bible; it is either all without exception or all with distinction. In Romans 8:28 above we see that all is a condition of “according to His purpose”. So in this case the “all” must be all with distinction. The distinction being the condition of the all.
So what does it mean when it says, “called according to His purpose”?
“Purpose” is translated from the Greek word, prothesis, pro’-the-sēs, which is made up of the prefix pro and thesis. Thesis is a paper or dissertation put forth proving the standard of excellence of your education. We believers have a standard of excellence that we are called to. The word “called” above is the word for invitation, like a dinner bell ringing. Whoever hears the bell comes to dinner. What is the higher standard then? The higher standard is, Love. That should be easy for us because God doesn’t just tell us to love, He loves us into loving Him. He shows us how to love others by loving us.
“Herein is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us, and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins.” 1 John 4:10
Isn’t this amazing? How big did God love us? Not only could He not stay away, He made us part of His family. God knew the only way He could legally pay for the sins of the world was to give the highest price, His only begotten son. Then He paid that heavy price! He actually did it. For us! Wow!
God wanted us so close that we could access His throne room twenty-four seven. He wanted us to be a thought away. Then, then THEN He not only wants us close so He can love and take care of us, He also pours on kindness after kindness.
“Or despisest thou the riches of His goodness and forbearance and longsuffering; not knowing that the goodness (kindness) of God leadeth thee to repentance?” Romans 2:4
Then He also says,
“…forHe hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.” Hebrews 13:5b
He never leaves us or forsakes us. So how do we learn to love others? We watch the master of Love as He loves us. We read about it in the Word of God. Wow! It’s all in there. God called us to a higher standard of life and living. He embraced us as His family through that same purpose of His Will and then He pours on kindness after kindness after kindness. Why? Because He loves us. How do we know we really love God then? We have to fight for our relationship with Him too. We do whatever it takes to learn more and stay in fellowship with Him. We make it a two-way street.
“For this is the love of God, that we keep His commandments: and His commandments are not grievous. (the Grk. word for grevious is, “barys,” meaning, ”hard to do”).” 1 John 5:3
What is the greatest commandment?
“Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.” Matthew 22:37-39
It shouldn’t surprise me that this is the greatest two commandments of God, but it does. It surprises me because that’s not what religion, or men, or this world tells us about God. They tell us He has a big stick and He wants us to obey…or else. Isn’t it a relief to know that love doesn’t operate that way? Relationships shouldn’t have a big stick ready to hit you for the first misstep either.
How do you know if you really love someone then?
You’ll know when, there is no end to the good you would do for them, just like your Heavenly Father has already done for you.
God bless you today!