Are You Called Out by God?

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“Have not I commanded thee? Be strong and of a good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the LORD thy God is with thee whithersoever thou goest.” Joshua 1:9

I feel like that is the verse of the day.

Wow! I had to reread it again and again taking each word one word at a time. It soaks into you like moisture into a wilting plant. This verse is back in Joshua and Joshua was the successor to Moses. Moses had been told to lead the Children of Israel to the Promise Land. But Moses never made it in. Neither did very many of his peers. He saw it, but he never went in. Did he fail? Did he faint at the task? God took Moses up to look at the Promise Land but had told him in Deuteronomy that he would not go in. Could you wait? Could you or I stop before reaching a big goal like that if God asked you to? Could you hand the task off to another? Moses was a prophet so powerful, so respected and so revered by the Israelites that they said there was none other who had come before him greater. Wow! He had led millions of people to freedom from slavery. This is a very strong minister with a huge ministry. Now God is telling his successor to take up the cause and go forward without fear. Wow.

God past the gavel to Joshua.

“And Joshua the son of Nun was full of the spirit of wisdom; for Moses had laid his hands upon him: and the children of Israel hearkened unto him, and did as the LORD commanded Moses.” Deuteronomy 34:9

Let’s look at, Paul, another minister, and his strong words.

“Consider what I say; and the Lord give thee understanding in all things. Remember that Jesus Christ of the seed of David was raised from the dead according to my gospel: Wherein I suffer trouble, as an evil doer, even unto bonds; but the word of God is not bound.” 2 Timothy 2:7-9

Here we see Paul writing to Timothy, his successor, and he said, I have suffered because of my gospel. Paul claimed this revelation as “HIS gospel”. It was his ministry, his task.

How could he say that? Jesus Christ WAS raised from the dead by God.

How could Paul come along and call it HIS gospel?

He could call it his, because God calls MEN and WOMEN to His work. God calls individuals. He never calls organizations or committees. He never calls churches, or schools. He calls people. When God calls it’s up to us to make our calling, our ministry, our job OUR OWN. That’s why Paul could say it was “his gospel”. He’d been the one to spread the Word over all of Asia in 2 years. He was the one moving his legs, arms, body, tongue and mouth to do God’s will. He was not a machine. He made a choice. Just as God asked Joshua to have no fear, to be strong, and to be of a good courage, Paul did as well. Paul made that ministry his own.

So how are we called? Does God still do this sort of thing?

Oh yes. God is very much alive, and VERY much doing BIG things in the lives of those He called. But how do you know that it’s you?

Well, it happened when you were born. No not born in the flesh as a baby, but born-again of God’s Spirit. That calling happened the day you believed.

“That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved, for with the heart man believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.” Romans 10:9-10

The moment that proceedure took place you were born-again. For me it happened when I was 5 years old. It was my sweet mother who helped me along.

But Terri, how do we know we are “called out” because of believing this one little thing? I mean Terri, I thought the called out ones were ministers like Paul, Moses and Joshua. Who am I?

Oh, but you could never be, just little ol’ you now.

You, my friend, are called out.

Look at Ephesians, a love letter to you from God.

“I therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, beseech you that ye walk worthy of the vocation wherewith ye are called, With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love; Endeavouring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. [There is] one body, and one Spirit, even as ye are called in one hope of your calling; One Lord, one faith, one baptism, One God and Father of all, who [is] above all, and through all, and in you all. But unto every one of us is given grace according to the measure of the gift of Christ.” Ephesians 4:1-7

Wowzah! One calling, one spirit, one bond of peace. WOW! That word called in the Greek is the word, kaleō. It means to invite. God handed out one invitation to all of us when He handed out salvation. We are called to a work, to a greater work than that of normal living. IF that is so what is our ministry?

“Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new. [18] And all things are of God, who hath reconciled us to himself by Jesus Christ, and hath given to us the ministry of reconciliation; [19] To wit, that God was in Christ, reconciling the world unto himself, not imputing their trespasses unto them; and hath committed unto us the word of reconciliation. [20] Now then we are ambassadors for Christ, as though God did beseech you by us: we pray you in Christ’s stead, be ye reconciled to God. [21] For he hath made him to be sin for us, who knew no sin; that we might be made the righteousness of God in him.” 2 Corinthians 5:17-21

We have all been called to walk worthy and we have all been given a ministry. It is the same ministry Jesus Christ had. He calls it the ministry of reconciliation. Oh sure, we can get hung up on titles and opinions of men and women, but this is our “Calling”. And in my opinion there is no greater calling.

Can we know where that calling is?

Sure!! Look around you! Are there hurting hearts? Are there people burdened by the world’s deceitful lies? Are there people needing healing, prayer and a direction in the daily world you live in? So many people get caught up thinking that old trick of the…

Have, Do, Be.

Here’s what I mean.

Once I HAVE my ministry, then I’ll DO big things for God, and then I’ll BE called out as His minister. But it doesn’t work that way. You have to change that around. You need to be willing to do for God right now, in your daily life. He called you. He asked for you. He believes and empowered you! And God never regrets the gifts He gives. I’ll leave you with one last thing.

“Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you easy, and my burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30

What kind of life could we live if we believed this? I mean really believed it to the bottom of our core? Today is your day to shine in the gospel you’ve been given. So be strong, be of a good courage, God is with you withersoever thou goest!

God bless you today!

How to Overcome Doubt

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Am I going to be able to pay rent at the end of the month? Will I get tooth decay from not using Crest? Is all this butter in my diet going to clog my arteries?

Does God love me enough to do something about my problem?

If I’m really born-again and God’s child, then why am I going through all these problems? Am I really His? Doubt is the first step off the slippery slope of fear. But do any of us really know how to stop doubting? How can we stop doubt when it comes at you from all directions? Every commercial, every song on the radio, every article, and blog post we see hits us with DOUBTS. Not to mention some personality styles are more prone to doubt, just like certain genetics are more prone to heart disease. So how do we over come it? If God wants us to have and abound in FAITH, and doubt is the first step towards fear, how can we stop doing it? First we’re going to look at the devastation having one little doubt can bring. God set up a very simple rule for Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden. He first told Adam.

“And the LORD God commanded the man, saying, Of every tree of the garden thou mayest freely eat: But of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, thou shalt not eat of it: for in the day that thou eatest thereof thou shalt surely die.” Gen. 2:16-17

He told Adam not to eat of the Tree of Knowledge. It was a very simple rule. Then God created for him a wife.

“And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” verse 18

Who received the instructions? Adam did. He then instructed his new wife after she was created. Now let’s go down a bit to chapter 3. Here comes the devil and who does he tempt? And what does he ask her?

“Now the serpent was more subtile than any beast of the field which the LORD God had made. And he said unto the woman, Yea, hath God said, Ye shall not eat of every tree of the garden?” Gen. 3:1

Did the serpent know what God had said? Of course he knew what God said. With this knowledge the serpent went to Eve and said, “Has God really said this? Did he really say EVERY tree?” eve and serpent In watching the downfall of man, we can observe how the Devil consistently operates. The first thing the Devil had Eve do–and that he will get us to do–is question the integrity and accuracy of God’s Word. He said to her, “Did God really say ye shall not eat of every tree of the garden?” The devil knew what God had said. He also wanted to instill doubt in Eve. The Devil is not so stupid as to march into one’s affairs in a straight-forward, and obnoxious way. He is sly and will slyly question you until you doubt everything you hear or read. This is how doubt starts. Now, Eve began to doubt and went to her husband, they fell out of fellowship with God and were kicked out of the Garden. They lost the battle. But there is one who WON that same battle. Jesus Christ was also tempted to doubt. How did He win?

“And Jesus being full of the Holy Ghost returned from Jordan, and was led by the Spirit into the wilderness,

Being forty days tempted of the devil. And in those days he did eat nothing: and when they were ended, he afterward hungered.

And the devil said unto him, If thou be the Son of God, command this stone that it be made bread.

And Jesus answered him, saying, It is written, That man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word of God.” Luke 4: 1-4

Jesus Christ answered with “It is written…” He had studied the written Word of God. He didn’t try to guess, he used the scriptures of the Old Testament to bolster him. He used the Word of God. What did Jesus do the next time?

“And the devil, taking him up into an high mountain, shewed unto him all the kingdoms of the world in a moment of time.

And the devil said unto him, All this power will I give thee, and the glory of them: for that is delivered unto me; and to whomsoever I will I give it.

If thou therefore wilt worship me, all shall be thine. And Jesus answered and said unto him, Get thee behind me, Satan: for it is written, Thou shalt worship the Lord thy God, and him only shalt thou serve.” verses 5-8

Wow! Again Jesus Christ the Son of God said, “it is written…” He used the Word of God for self-defense against the temptation to doubt his God, his role, and his calling. IF Jesus Christ used the Words in the Word of God to overcome doubt and he is our example, then how should we deal with it when it comes up? Look at what he told Peter after Peter had walked on water with him.

“And he said, Come. And when Peter was come down out of the ship, he walked on the water, to go to Jesus.

But when he saw the wind boisterous, he was afraid; and beginning to sink, he cried, saying, Lord, save me. And immediately Jesus stretched forth [his] hand, and caught him, and said unto him, O thou of little faith, wherefore didst thou doubt?” Matthew 14: 29-31 Why did you doubt? Jesus knew why Peter began to slip into the waves and be swallowed by fear. Doubt! When we doubt we rob our faith of its power.

“Jesus answered and said unto them, Verily I say unto you, If ye have faith, and doubt not, ye shall not only do this which is done to the fig tree, but also if ye shall say unto this mountain, Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea; it shall be done.” Matthew 21:21

“And all things, whatsoever ye shall ask in prayer, believing, ye shall receive.” verse 22

There are always one of two powers at work in this world. Fear or Faith. Faith is the miraculous power of God in “manifest” or in other words, seen/felt/tasted or touched– in the senses realm. Faith is our standard and badge. God asks us to be believing Believers. Belief is first built with trust, then confidence, and then fully operational in our believing. We learn and grow up in our faith.

“And Jesus answering saith unto them, Have faith in God. 

For verily I say unto you, That whosoever shall say unto this mountain, Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea; and shall not doubt in his heart, but shall believe that those things which he saith shall come to pass; he shall have whatsoever he saith.

Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them.” Mark 11:22-24

Doubt creates a path whereby fear opens the door to catastrophe. Instead have Faith in God. Faith. Is it really so risky? Is it really so hard? With practice it gets easier and easier until it becomes a lifestyle, but first you have to stop the doubt before it gets an introduction. God bless you today!

A Strong Argument vs. A Strong Relationship

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There was nothing more important to me, when I was a young Christian, than to prove my point and win every argument. Now, as I have gained a few well-covered gray hairs, I realize that “a” relationship is more important than “a” notch on my Bible. People don’t care what I know until they know that I care. You and I have the distinct and rare joy of fellow-shipping around the richness of the Word of God together. It is an addiction for me, and a constant learning process. I love it! It reminds me of that verse in Psalms.

“Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful. But his delight is in the law of the LORD; and in his law doth he meditate day and night. And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper.” Psalms 1:1-3

Together we revel here along in this bubbling burbling water enjoying every mouthful and scenic sunset in the land of God’s treasured abundance. Dangers pass by us, leaving us unharmed. We grow every year taller, more expansive and wide. Our roots break through rock and hard earth miles below the surface and we live a grace-filled life. But this is not how it has always been. I remember the time I’d fight for every scrap of revelation. I’d over think every possible sign from God not knowing He was big enough to just tell me Himself. I remember fearing for my life, and moments so dark I didn’t think I’d come out of it alive. I fought for every ounce of understanding from God that I gained. You could call me a scrapper for the Lord. In actuality, I was half-starved spiritual transient searching for something that made sense. If someone came to me with their logic, I would fight every angle, poke holes in their theory, and rip their believing to shreds. I was not a fun audience. I’ve been removed from Sunday school classes for asking too many questions, and walked out of sermons when no one was allowed to leave. Even as a feisty teenager, I required proof. Especially then. What I really wanted was Love. God’s love. Agape is the most powerful weapon known to the universe. No other weapon formed against it will prosper. It’s really all I ever needed. If, now… NOW that I have my hard evidence and plenty of love, if now I expected any less from my feisty audience, I would be a fool. If I jumped back in the ring and thrashed around beating up their believing and pulling out their confidence in God I would be just like the Pharisees. The Pharisees tried to rip Jesus Christ’s faith to shreds, yet he continued to walk in love towards them. Sometimes agape has teeth too, but 95% of the time it walks in when the world walks out. Think of all the miracles he did. So often they were given to spiritually starved paupers, desperate for any attempt to save them. Lazarus was DEAD! How desperate was that situation? Yet the Pharisees continued to plot, to cajole, to steal the seeds of the Word of God from Jesus Christ’s ministry and life. They tried to chop down his mighty oak planted by the rivers of water and prospering in His way and time.

“The ungodly are not so: but are like the chaff which the wind driveth away.Therefore the ungodly shall not stand in the judgment, nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous. For the LORD knoweth the way of the righteous: but the way of the ungodly shall perish.” vs. 4-6

I guess I just have one question. Are you trying to win every argument? Or are you loving people like God wants to love them. Nothing in your life will be more fulfilling then when you give. Nothing will transform and grow you like planting yourself in the Word and winning those relationships for God. Agape love is not an emotional human love like the other loves are. It is God’s love. God is spirit. We must make a freewill decision to ask for guidance when loving like God loves. The answers come from above, they are outside our limited 5-senses understanding and will not, often times, make rational sense to us. But over and over, when I have loved this way, somewhere another spiritual scrapper puts down their boxing gloves for a time. River Glimmer Start with yourself. Ask God, “God if you were me, what would you do today to bless ME?” Then go to your loved ones and sphere of influence. Ask that question about every person you come in contact with. Practice, practice, practice. All your really doing is putting down deep roots on the edge of the river of LIFE. God bless you today!

What Are You Waiting To Be?

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Have you ever heard of the “Be, Do, Have” philosophy?

Winning the race-001 Be, Do, Have is an incredible truth but most of us get it backwards. We think that once we have a million dollars, or a college degree, or extra time, then we’ll do something important with it and then we’ll be a great person. I heard the principle in a leadership seminar last week and here’s something I’ve noticed. All the best principles come from the Word of God and they are provable in our own lives. But Where is it in the Word? And what is this thing? Instead of having it mixed up and backwards, we need to turn it and our priorities around. We first work on who we are on the inside to be a great person, then we’ll do something great with ourselves, and then we’ll have whatever we need. Here in Mark there’s example of someone getting this mixed around.

“And when he was gone forth into the way, there came one running, and kneeled to him, and asked him, Good Master, what shall I do that I may inherit eternal life?

And Jesus said unto him, Why callest thou me good? [there is] none good but one, [that is], God.

Thou knowest the commandments, Do not commit adultery, Do not kill, Do not steal, Do not bear false witness, Defraud not, Honour thy father and mother.

And he answered and said unto him, Master, all these have I observed from my youth.

Then Jesus beholding him loved him, (the word “loved” is the Greek word “agapaō”, which means “the love of God in the renewed mind in manifestation”) and said unto him, One thing thou lackest: go thy way, sell whatsoever thou hast, and give to the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven: and come, take up the cross, and follow me.

And he was sad at that saying, and went away grieved: for he had great possessions.

And Jesus looked round about, and saith unto his disciples, How hardly shall they that have riches enter into the kingdom of God!  And the disciples were astonished at his words. But Jesus answereth again, and saith unto them, Children, how hard is it for them that trust in riches to enter into the kingdom of God!” Mark 10-17-24


This section is so fascinating! Here Jesus beholds and walks in love/agapaō towards this man, and you know he asks God what to say. All of the money the man had earned on his own, and had gathered it around him of his own might. They were now standing in his way of even greater riches because he’d learned to depend on THEM not God. His priorities were mixed up. This story shows how hard it is to trust in God after years of trusting in what someone has or on himself.

I used to think that if I had a degree at a noteworthy college then I would really succeed.

When I broke down that motive in my heart; by going to God and asking Him, I realized that I wanted the degree so people would respect me more. I had decided that once I had a degree then I’d really serve God, I’d really do something special for Him. He reminded me that if I just worked on my walk with Him He would lead me into that great service. He would lead me into speaking the right word and the right time to the right person. In that, I could affect vast ripples of change throughout the world. Wow! But I, like that rich man, had to trust God to get me there. Not the college degree, not money, not a business. God. What a perspective change huh? Here is the verse where Gods’ asks us to “Be, Do, and then Have”.

“Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.” Proverbs 3:5-6

We decided to trust and lean not on our own understanding and acknowledge him, then He shall direct our paths. Verse 13 of the same chapter says…

“Happy is the man that findeth wisdom, and the man that getteth understanding. For the merchandise of it is better than the merchandise of silver, and the gain thereof than fine gold. She is more precious than rubies: and all the things thou canst desire are not to be compared unto her. Length of days is in her right hand; and in her left hand riches and honour.” 13-16

Look at all that you reap in reward just by finding wisdom from God? Wow! And this verse goes on and on but I think you get my point. Be God’s best today! You only have now to ask, “God if you were me what would you do?”. Then DO it. Do your best. The deliverance comes in the doing of the Word, not in the hearing only. Your “haves” are your path filled with wisdom, directed by the One who knows everything that will ever be profitable to you. Use your NOW to BE the best you can possibly be.   God Bless You Today!

What Difference Will One Day Make?

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What difference can a day make in your walk with God?

“But, beloved, be not ignorant of this one thing, that one day is with the Lord as a thousand years, and a thousand years as one day” 2 Peter 3:8

God knows each and every one of His children and is personally involved in their lives. How could one of our days be like a thousand years? Well, God is so fully aware and involved in so many lives, that each day is filled with at least a thousand years worth of blessings, details and deliverance. If we thought about time the way that He did, it would take us millions of pages to write out one little day. There are people being born, people falling asleep, people needing other people, and a quadrillion details in between all over this planet that God takes care of for us.

So what could one day change in MY life?

Well, thank God we don’t have His job. Comprehending and understanding God is no more possible than the bread comprehending the baker. But we can be more intentional with our days. And each day try to drive a little harder towards God. I often ask the question: “God if you were me what would you do today?”  Each day we can work to ask that questions one more time than the last day. If we fail, as in turf in our teeth fail, we need to remember that,…

Yesterday ended last night.

We have the choice to keep dragging those failures along with us, or we can let go of them. That doesn’t mean you don’t take responsibility for them, it simply means you don’t beat yourself up over and over.

“Be ye careful (anxious) for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”

“Finally brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.” Philippians 8:6-8

Why would God tell us, His little kids, to think like this?

He made us. He knows our minds can only hold one thought at a time. If we are thinking positive thoughts, we will have peace. If we stop worrying, we see results. It is principle and amazing how things turn around just by controlling our thoughts!

Are you hanging on to something from yesterday? Fill your mind with that Word of God today. Be intentional today. If the failure tries to sneak back up, ignore it and make your mind track down the positive instead. Great cargo comes in over quiet seas. Your mind is the sea for God’s great revelations and blessings, keep it quiet and thankful. Before long your days will fill with sensational truths and peace.

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God bless you TODAY!


:010 How Can I Overcome a Short Temper

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Babies, and especially toddlers, know from the start how to throw a five-star tantrum. But is that how adults should act? What if it’s an ingrained habit that you grew up with? Is it available to control an out-of-control temper?

Our next characteristic of the Love of God is;

“Is Not Easily Provoked”

“Do not be easily aggravated into responding sharply in an angry emotionally charged manner.”

The last couple of words makes all the difference. “Emotionally charged manner” or launching, tells me this is not godly anger; such as when Jesus over threw the money changing tables in the temple.

Baby’s react circumstantially. As they grow though, they need to learn how to control those tempers. Remember the love of God is to obey His commands and His commands are not grievous or hard to do. His love, agape, “is not easily provoked.” Therefore a bad temper cannot be blamed on genes, or our parents historical origin. It has to be something we can control.

Here are 4 tips on how to overcome a quick temper.

  1. Practice Checking In with God: When something comes up, STOP before you react and ask God what He would do in your situation. You can practice this by taking old routines and giving them a fresh coat of God’s perspective. Example: you drive the same way to work or the grocery story every time. Ask God next time, how to get there. You might be surprised that He has a treasure in store for you. Proverbs 3:5-6
  2. Practice getting quiet on the inside: Practice the opposite of launching. (You’ve done that for your whole life and where has it taken you?) Great cargos in life come in over quiet seas. Spend 5-30 minutes a day forcing your mind to be quiet. It takes time to master, but it is available. Our minds are a muscle and must do what we tell them to do. Here’s how: Pick a quiet part of the house. Put all the circumstances out of your mind. Pray for help, and then watch the clock tick by as you settle into a no-thoughts-allowed zone for five minutes. Work your way up to thirty. Your mind then gets used to sitting quiet instead of running all over. Think of a perfectly trained bird dog. They sit still, waiting for the master’s command. Puppies certainly don’t come that way they are trained that way. You are in charge of your thoughts and your determination in making them obey will determine your success. “Thou wilt keep [him] in perfect peace, [whose] mind [is] stayed [on thee]: because he trusteth in thee.” Isaiah 26:3
  3.  Get around others who regularly practice these first two steps: It changed my life dramatically when I got around a group of people who really worked at these first two steps. In fact, it was difficult to go back to the people who emotionally launch on you at every turn after that. I understand that you may be the only person you know who now knows this. If that’s the case, dive in right here at Supporting Godly Women! There are over 300+ posts, plus other websites and pages connected with us that you are welcome to get involved in. Not to mention there are some upcoming webinars hosted by Supporting Godly Women. If you’re interested in attending, email us at or message us on Facebook.
  4. Good Habits are Worth Building: Habits take approx. 21 days of concerted effort to build. Three weeks of building results in a lifetime of peace. Is that worth it for you? I’m not saying things won’t come up. They will, but now you’ll be equipped emotionally to handle them. And these are so simple even a child could do them.
  5. Avoid Triggers: A habit pattern of thinking has triggers associated with it. For example; If I know that every time I watch the news my blood boils, that is a trigger. Or if I see a baseball game, football game, or certain inciting friend, then I need to put some distance between me and that trigger until God tells me it’s okay to return. Triggers, like on a gun, get us emotionally fired up in the blink of an eye. The greatest thing about the first two steps is; you can ask God what triggers are in your life. What gets you running blindly out of control? God gave us the spirit of love, power and a SOUND MIND. We can hear His guidance when we triumph in a sound mind.

“Ye are of God, little children, and have overcome them: because greater is he that is in you, than he that is in the world!” 1 John 4:4

God bless you today!

To Read earlier posts click below;

:001 Look With Me, Closely

:002 What is God Like?

:003 Harvesting Patience

:004 What is the Antidote to Bitterness?

:005 How To: Fight Jealousy

:006 Would it Annoy You Like It Does God?

:007 Should We Bless or Impress?

:008 Have You Ever Said This?

:009 If He Would Just Stop Being So Self-Centered!


Hot Sex, Real Love, a True Companion, Can Christians have all three?

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Here’s the scene. You watch in the mall, as three grown men ogle a woman wearing a dress too short for her leg length and a top cut too low for her shoulder width. She looks like a walking wardrobe malfunction, or a cry from the wild Amazonian jungle. But that’s just it…she isn’t walking she is sa-shaying away; hypnotizing the men with the sway of her hips. From that incident we women, who wear capris that are too long for our stubby legs, and a top named after a dead-old-maid, gather that men only want sex-appeal from us. As sure as I am that the first woman is stopping traffic and causing wrecks, I am also sure that men are smarter than that. What am I talking about?


Yes, sex and the kind that makes you sigh into your coffee with delight when your sweetie walks by the next morning. Here’s the difference between the first woman and the second. Confidence. Let me test this out on the men for a second. Have you ever seen your woman drop her conversation to watch a six-pack with no shirt working in a yard? Ah-hem…yes…you have. Women do the same thing won’t we? Could the men assume from seeing their women do is that all WE want is sex appeal from our man. Is that true girls? Nahhhh! Not at all!

(I can hear my mother now…Terri, this is a Christian website and you’re not supposed to talk about sex on here! Lol…) I’m not talking about just sex. I’m talking about GOOD sex, with respect. Sure, it’s a Christian topic. I don’t want to have to bring up all the men and women of the Old Testament who “got it on,” to prove it to you. Or how much Paul had to talk about not getting it on with people outside your marriage. It’s all over the Bible.

There are 3 Kinds of Love; Agape (the love of God), Philos (familial/friendship love), and Eros (sexual love). If you build a relationship on the love of God, you’ll enhance the other two by using it. But if you are hot under the collar with eros, and then try to build the other two, you get it backwards. Sure… the sex is great, but after a while you don’t like the other person and things degrade from there.

Here’s the bottom line folks. God designed our bodies, He designed our minds, He knows what flips “the switch” for each gender and He’s not a prude. Take God out of the box and ask Him what you can do to bless your sweetie in the sack. Respect the other person and start incorporating agape into your eros. You’d easily ask what God would do to bless a friendship, why not here as well?  It sure makes it a lot easier for the man to say no to the constant bombardment of temptation and the woman as well. Just a tip here, be willing to do whatever God says. My hubby brought me a shoe-shelf one time and got me all hot and bothered. HA! Boy was he surprised! The point is; he was willing to bless me the way God asked and he does it everyday. I try to do the same. We became lifelong companions who are deeply in love. You can have this too! But you have to do it God’s way.

Now; just like in so many of my posts I talk about what God is okay with–and what isn’t Him at all. It really boils down to two things either you’re humble to God, or you’re prideful. Either you’ll do things God’s way, or you gotta do it your own way. This issue is problematic for either gender. Chauvinism (male or female), arrogance, ego, destructive behavior physically or mentally, these are on the pride side with anything. It goes for sex as well. If you are being this way towards another person…it actually destroys what is so great about great sex. If you are in a situation with someone, male or female like this, go to God. Ask if that will ever change. If not, ask God what to do about it. Every situation is unique. Sometimes a healing is required. Sometimes nothing can be done. That’s when you have to decide.

I’ll leave you with this verse.

“I [am] my beloved’s, and my beloved [is] mine…” Song of Songs 6:3a

God Bless You Today!