She Who Has Been Loved the Most…

Finds it harder than any to walk away.

Love is no respecter of persons/status or title. There is no shadow or turning, no favoritism, just a complete unconditional kindness and giving of love. Think of the innocence that a baby loves, or a puppy who has no knowledge of you and I. It is a simple love. It is without an agenda, without manipulations and a total freewill choice for the receiver to receive that love. When they do…they are melted by it. How can you turn from the adoring eyes of your child?


Now imagine, God.

He IS love. Not human love, He is spiritual love, called agape in the Greek. It’s a far bigger and hundreds of times more pure than even the baby love. God loves in spite of His omniscience. You see, agape has the full understanding of every hardness in our hearts, every black deed, every hypocrisy and yet still pours on the kindness. Why? How could God do that? Look at Romans 2.

“Or do you despise the riches of His goodness, forbearance, and long-suffering, not knowing that the goodness of God leads you to repentance?” Romans 2:4 (NKJV)

God knows that His goodness or kindness and tolerance and patience will win in the end. And He “knows” that because of His omnipotence. Oh…and He made us. Yup, as far as we want to run away from God and make choices that don’t honor that love and sacrifice, He still pours on the love and tolerance because we are His creation. Not in the way that He controls us. He never meant for us to be His little robots, otherwise why would He waste His time giving us freewill. No, He loves us and sheds abroad that love by His unspeakable gift. What gift? You ask.

“Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost. (Spirit) For the promise is unto you, and to your children, and to all that are afar off, even as many as the Lord our God shall call.” Acts 2:38-39 KJV

God poured on His Love then gave His Son. He invites us everyday just to look a little deeper into His love. It’s the real deal. The more you have it, the more you manifest it. The more you manifest it, the more you have it. Soon you’re so loved, so tender-ized by it, that you could never walk away.

God bless you today!


Bring in the Birds and Bees

Better Homes and Gardens recommends filling your garden with tantalizing flora and fauna. Besides the spectacular view, they say you’ll attract the birds and bees to your yard and have a summer filled with VIP Nat Geo Wild shows. I’ve had this kind of garden in the past. One year, we planted the whole back side of my fence with sunflowers. It was spectacular! Even the squirrels thought so.


“A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.” Proverbs 18:24

You could say we put out the invite to be friendly!

We can do this in our lives too. A friend isn’t one who’ll judge the state of your home, or criticize you for the load of laundry or taxes still in a pile near your couch, they are the ones who love YOU! So put out the welcome mat and invite a friend to tea/coffee or lunch. I dare you to see what happens.

Keep in mind that God knows everything and everyone. He knows who will most be blessed and most bless you. Ask Him who you should invite. You never know, you might make a new friend.

God bless you today!

20 Tips to Becoming Better than Before

We all know that it takes twenty-one days to form a habit. But how many of us have the perspective that today is a brand new day?  I want to share twenty tips about forming good, healthy habits.

“For which cause we faint not; but though our outward man perish, yet the inward man is renewed day by day.” 2 Corinthians 4:16

There are five areas of life so I’d like to break these tips down per area.

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The Spiritual

To ignore healthy habits here would defeat the purpose of good health! Spirit or the Kingdom of God is over everything in the senses world and when we have our vertical alignment strong and renewed, everything horizontally becomes easier.

  1. Develop a daily prayer and study time. Get with your heavenly Daddy every day.
  2. Fellowship with like-minded believers every day. So many people leave this out, but fellowship means sharing your heart with others who will believe with you and cheer you on when it comes to God.
  3. Give. Giving is a huge principle of God’s that open’s wide the flood gates of blessing. Form the habit of asking God, who, where, when and how to give to other people.
  4. “Share” the care. There are so many ways to tell other people how you’ve been blessed by God. This will lead to opportunities, blessing and just some good ol’ fashioned miracles. All we need to do is share what we have seen and heard.


God always seems to work on these two first steps first as a babe. Then, as you grow in Christ or just in maturity, you revisit them over and over. We are never truly done growing.

  1. The renewed mind is a mind clear and free of all the sand in the engine of life. This mind is like the bulging and strong muscle ready when needed. Like an Olympic athlete crouched in ready position just before the gun goes off this mind races with precision and preparation towards a healthy conclusion. Learn how to renew your mind, there are so many tapes and instructors including many articles here on this site to help you train that brain.
  2. The stayed mind is the biggest prize. When you ask God how to think about a person, you learn the right way to “think”. Then the real power comes in your ability to hold that thought in your mind even when circumstances tell you different.
  3. Affirmations are mental vitamins. We should all have our daily dose of right thinking about ourselves and our lives.
  4. Remember to ask, “What’s the Profit?” When people throw negative into your mind you have a choice to accept those words, once accepted, your mind and body will believe them as truth, once truth settles it forms our inner reality. The oneness is on us! We must decide, every minute, what becomes our reality and/or what the profit is of having a reality like that. Oh! that we understood the true power of our believing words!

The Physical

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At some point you can exhaust this category. Yes, we can get to the peak of personal physical health. If you, like me, are not there yet, here are some pointers.

  1. Brush your teeth two-three times a day. Floss once a day. Now that’s not so hard. Ha!
  2. Work out to the point of sweating and then go at least eight minutes past it everyday. They say a normal healthy body will sweat in twelve minutes of consistent movement. Once you’re there, go a little further. You can do more than this of course, but never do less.
  3. Eat to your health. You know how they say, “drink to your health” when doing a toast? Instead, lift your veggies and eat to your health! Stay off of fried, high fat food entirely and try to eat less carbohydrates and fat. By doing this you’ll start eating more natural healthy foods.
  4. Drink eighty ounces of water a day. That is four twenty-ounce bottles of water.

The Financial

  1. Tithe. Ten percent of your gross income is a great starting point.
  2. Get out of debt. Step two: stay out.
  3. Save for emergencies; then don’t use the money for anything else. Three to six months of expenses.
  4. Live within your means. A budget will help with that.


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Relationships add the joy and spice to life. They can also add the toxins. Know which is which with these healthy relationship tips.

  1. Be a fruit inspector. People are where they are in life because of choices they made. If you want to change your life for the better, but have someone close to you criticizing you and condemning you, it might be time to change out that relationship. On the other hand, they may not realize what they are doing, so first tell them they are sabotaging your efforts and that you really need their support instead. The wake up call might help them change their life too.
  2. Catch people doing something good. When people in your life make changes for the better or do something positive, reward it with compliments and well– chocolate works for me. Lol… But seriously, let them know how much they blessed you. It will edify them and encourage more good behavior, not to mention, inspire you as well. No body ever gets too much love,  but they get too much criticism real quick.
  3. Work on relationships. Someone once told me that relationships are time spent together. Someone else, very wise said, distance doesn’t make the heart fonder, it makes it wander. Work on the good relationships and they will get better. One great question to ask them is, “Is there anything that I can do to improve our relationship?”
  4. Remember, your heavenly Father moved heaven and earth to have a relationship with you. He gave His only begotten son just so He could communicate with you and vice versa. Sit with Him, listen close and don’t rush Him. He’s worth every second you spend and every ounce of effort you have.

God bless you today!

Making Life Easier with One Hard Step

I’ve heard it said many times that rewards in the spiritual are linked to rewards in the physical. And the biggest cohesive substance linking them is faithful stewardship. Of course, whenever I heard that, I would nod and agree because somehow it made sense. I didn’t know by experience how it made sense, but something in me said,

“Yep, that’s just got to be true.”

“Moreover it is required in stewards, that a man be found faithful.” 1 Corinthians 4:2

Then, I got a huge dose of reality. So far, I’ve coasted along through life, in a slumber, letting it hit me whenever and where ever it would. I never, except in a few rare emotional cases, grabbed hold of my time, my health or my finances and said, that’s it, we are making changes for the better.

Some of you know, my beloved grandma passed away in February. Since then, several more members of our family, young and old, have passed away in a senseless and maddening spree of death. I was closest to my grandma, but the blow after blow of family members dying really took the wind out of me. I clung to God. When I say clung, it was with desperate nails clawing into the side of a cavernous wall of despair plummeting below me. I screamed, cried and I hurt. I know someone out there reading this, has been there.

Little by little, I’ve been able to slowly pull back up and out of that cavern. But, then I sat on the edge staring blankly at it for a long time. A few people would come and sit there with me. Mostly, I sat alone. Except– I wasn’t alone. God was still there. He didn’t force me to get up. He didn’t condemn me. He was just there. Waiting for when I was ready to talk.

“Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.” Psalms 23:4

Then a thought occurred to me.

“It’s time to start over. It’s time to really live the abundant life.”

“The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.” John 10:10

Can you imagine my, still very personal shock, at this statement? But look, my life had proved as many people, that the thief does steal, kill and destroy. That was easy to see. If I could believe the negative, then why not the positive?

I suddenly realized that yes, they are gone, but I still live.

Life is a gift. It really is.

I could either coast along and let the wind toss me where it would, or I could take the helm, and steer myself into a life I only dreamed of having. As I looked around, I blinked back the foggy tears and took in the state of things around me. It was a like the Titanic, or some large wounded vessel. I needed to make a choice to fix things or drowned slowly.

Yesterday was one of the hardest battles I’ve ever faced. To put it metaphorically it was a three headed, fire-breathing dragon that I’d raised as a baby but now it was hungry and I was on the menu. The dragon’s name was “The Budget.” Uh-huh-huh…. If I didn’t tame this beast, I’d never taste the abundant life just beyond it’s reach. I’m not proud of the slobbering tears, or blubbering fear of failure. But I can tell you, today, one of those heads is chained down and the other two aren’t going anywhere. I had a victory! I was exhausted last night. I could barely talk or do anything. For some a budget is natural and easy. For me, it has been one of my worst and most avoided fears. I’m always telling you to kick fear out of your life. It doesn’t pay any rent.

We attacked our budget, but how about you? I can’t tell you how much easier our life will be. But you can’t do it alone and you can’t do it without a plan. It takes deliberate effort. It takes facing your three-headed dragon. But it means a more abundant life. What does that look like for you?

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For us, it means changing things forever.

“Moreover it is required in stewards, that a man be found faithful.” 1 Corinthians 4:2

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This is just one way that God can pull you from the depth of despair to life, but it takes little baby steps and being willing to change. I know I can do it. I didn’t yesterday, but now I know. It will just keep getting better and better and better. Now I’m the captain of my own ship, and we’re blazing a new trail.

Come with me!

God bless you today!

Aim for Great Heights!



Sorry. Hee he he…

I couldn’t resist.

Sometimes…okay most of the time, a good laugh is just what the doctor ordered!

Aren’t kids so much fun! They give us perspective. They give us their joy, their zeal their honest love for life. I love kids.


When they smile, we want to embrace them. When they hurt, we hurt. There is nothing more amazing than children.

This last weekend I worked a trade show booth with my husband and our band of awesome Realtors. I saw so many children. Some of them I knew, most I didn’t. There were a few times when one would throw their arms out to me from the safety of their loved one’s embraces. I’d hold them and talk to them…okay oogle and tweet at them. They are all so precious! I’m sure I neglected someone profitable in favor of their little smiles. But you never know…someday that little one will be reading our ad and call me! Lol…



But seriously, children are the light of our worlds. They play as astronauts exploring untamed wildernesses on the picnic table of their best friend.

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Life is full of possibilities!

Why can’t we still have that? Why do we stifle ourselves in the dry rot of life? Why not explore our dreams? Why not see what could be possible and then dream even bigger?  We have God as our Father after all. He looks into our lives and sees our joy and smiles. He sees our dreams and makes them bigger. Why can’t we just try it?

“Behold, what manner of love the Father hath bestowed upon us, that we should be called the sons of God.” 1 John 3:1a

We’ve got the biggest Daddy in the universe!

Just imagine if we really took Him up on His promise to bless us exceeding, abundantly, above all we can ask or think.

We’d be the kids with the grins from ear to ear.

Go ahead. I dare you.

“And this is the confidence that we have in him, that, if we ask any thing according to his will, he heareth us, And if we know that he hear us, whatsoever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we desired of him.” 1 John 5:14-15

Just ask and believe.

God bless you today!

Do You Ever Wonder, What is Possible?

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I know, (sigh) it’s a redundant question. But it’s only redundant because it needs boundaries. It needs explanation. We can’t explore what is possible without knowing more about the subject at hand.

But wait!

“For with God nothing shall be impossible.” Luke 1:37

This statement was said to Mary.

She had questions, maybe even doubts, about the message that she would give birth to the Messiah without being with a man.

Of course–she was standing in the presence of an angel.  Yes…the angel Gabriel. And HE had been sent from the throne room of Heaven where God spoke a message for Mary’s ears only.

He (Gabriel) said to her, in THAT scenario, “For with God nothing shall be impossible.”

What is possible with God?

What isn’t??

Things that are possible are rarely worthy of a passing mention. But the impossible? Now that makes history!

Impossible: adjective

  1. not able to occur, exist, or be done.

Then God did it.

Jesus Christ was born. He found people doubting around him too. What is possible? They wondered as well.

“And Jesus looking upon them saith, With men it is impossible, but not with God: for with God all things are possible.” Mark 10:27

Of course things look impossible to us! We are small, fragile and human. We can but only speak what we’ve seen and heard; which is severely limiting in the big picture.

God is a Spirit. He knows all things forward and past, inside and out, up and down. He has the power to make His Will come to pass. When our desires line up with His Will, IT–the impossible–happens.

What is the most impossible thing you can think of?

Coming back from total devastation? Total destruction? Total isolation? Total death?

It’s the most impossible thing I can think of.

It is also the state of every natural human being living without God-given spirit inside them because they have not yet believed Romans 10:9-10.

“That at that time ye were without Christ, being aliens from the commonwealth of Israel, and strangers from the covenants of promise, having no hope, and without God in the world:” Ephesians 2:12

We were goners.

The Bible also says we were in bondage and slaves to sin. We were dead in its trespasses. We were destroyed and living in a dark place. Our connection, severed.

In short–it sucked.

Then Jesus Christ came and brought light into the world again. He healed people’s diseases, gave hope to thousands and life to a not just a few. Real physical life!

So–of course– the devil had to get rid of him. Satan liked the dark world he’d made. He liked humanities lost connection. When we’re not connected he can convince us that our dreams are impossible. Our healings too. He thought he’d won by dealing us our death-blow. Humanity had lost. Reconciling us was impossible…

“But now….”

“… in Christ Jesus ye who sometimes were far off are made nigh (near) by the blood of Christ. Having abolished in his flesh the enmity, even the law of commandments contained in ordinances; for to make in himself of twain one new man, so making peace; And that he might reconcile both unto God in one body by the cross, having slain the enmity thereby:…For through him we both have access by one Spirit unto the Father.”

 Reconciliation complete!

So what now?

What is possible with God?

It’s a simple question, but now I have an even better one?

God, if you were me, what do you think is possible for my life?

Make the impossible happen in your life today.

Keys to Identifying and Avoiding a Persecution Complex

You might… if you are a right-winged Christian, be expecting me to join the ranks of pastors and teachers in Christianity reminding you of all the persecution on Christians in America. But alas, I will not. I will not join the many who say we are persecuted because we believe in Jesus Christ. These are the people clinging to extremes. They believe if we are different, we are judged, punished and/or isolated.

No…but I do feel we alone defeat ourselves with this thinking.

First let’s define it:

Persecution: is a program or campaign to exterminate, drive away, or subjugate people based on their membership in a religious, ethnic, social, or racial group.

Many times we think we suffer persecution because someone changes a rule about how we can go about exercising our religious rights, such as; prayer led by a school teacher at school. We can still pray in school anytime we want to, but a public school teacher/employee of the government is not allowed to direct a prayer during their working hours. Did this mean we can’t have prayer in school? No. But the rule led many to believe that Christians suffered persecution. Some took the suffering on and to a whole new level.

They made it a persecution complex. A persecution complex is the thought, or “group-thought”, that they are victims of persecution where it does not exist.

Here’s my question. If we live in a country free from restraint upon your religious beliefs, why are we all looking to be anybody’s victim? Today in America, persecution is simply a victim mentality. In the incredible country we live, with its rich resources and abundance of community, how can we get tripped up into thinking we are victims of persecution? It doesn’t make sense. Being a victim renders you powerless. It steals the joy from your walk, divides you from the continual gratification of fellowship and positive environment and in essence keeps you from enjoying the abundant life.

Persecution is not a difference of opinion or  a difference of belief.

Persecution comes from oppression of those with a difference of opinion and manifests itself as torture, subjection, and pain upon someone or some group to keep them from being who they are. Does that sound like a godly endeavor? The Jews suffered true persecution under Hitler’s rule. But do we in America as Christians, really suffer from governmental persecution? We have the freedom to say whatever we want. We live freely among other religions and practice our beliefs in everyday life. We can go to our own schools, colleges, churches, concerts, group meetings, and gather by the thousands! How is that persecution? We can study, speak and commit our entire lives to our faith freely unobstructed by our laws. How is that being persecuted? Shouldn’t we use this freedom to live as robust examples of God’s abundance, grace and wisdom? Believing we are a persecuted group could keep us divided. It could keep us from enjoying this greatness of the life and time we live in. It could keep us in bondage to negativity and always looking over our shoulder for the next conspiracy. It keeps us living in fear.Fear vs love-001

Could someone benefit from Christians having a persecution complex? Sure. But who?

“But if our gospel be hid, it is hid to them that are lost: In whom the god of this world hath blinded the minds of them which believe not, lest the light of the glorious gospel of Christ, who is the image of God, should shine unto them.” 2 Corinthians 4:4

Who divided us? Who is hiding the truth from people? The god of this world!The devil doesn’t want you unifying and working towards a cause together. He wants to keep you fighting and victimized. That would definitely keep him from prospering in his goals. Here’s an example of how the devil got the early Church fighting among themselves.

“1 Stand fast therefore in the liberty wherewith Christ hath made us free, and be not entangled again with the yoke of bondage.

2 Behold, I Paul say unto you, that if ye be circumcised, Christ shall profit you nothing. 3 For I testify again to every man that is circumcised, that he is a debtor to do the whole law. 4 Christ is become of no effect unto you, whosoever of you are justified by the law; ye are fallen from grace. 5 For we through the Spirit wait for the hope of righteousness by faith.

6 For in Jesus Christ neither circumcision availeth any thing, nor uncircumcision; but faith which worketh by love.

7 Ye did run well; who did hinder you that ye should not obey the truth? 8 This persuasion [cometh] not of him that calleth you. 9 A little leaven leaveneth the whole lump. 10 I have confidence in you through the Lord, that ye will be none otherwise minded: but he that troubleth you shall bear his judgment, whosoever he be. 11 And I, brethren, if I yet preach circumcision, why do I yet suffer persecution? then is the offence of the cross ceased. 12 I would they were even cut off which trouble you.

13 For, brethren, ye have been called unto liberty; only [use] not liberty for an occasion to the flesh, but by love serve one another. 14 For all the law is fulfilled in one word, [even] in this; Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. 15 But if ye bite and devour one another, take heed that ye be not consumed one of another.

16 [This] I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh.” Galatians 5:1-15

Love energizes believing! IF the devil can get us to stop loving each other and start pointing the finger at all our differences, we won’t see signs miracles and wonders. We won’t be examples of God’s greatness in this life. We’ll only see what the devil wants us to see, the negatives! Then…

Where does walking in love come in?

I heard it said once; “When a man is really walking with God, it’s very difficult to find a pigeonhole to put him into.” VP Wierwille

Persecution and a persecution complex puts a leash around your neck. When a group thought is to treat or act in a certain way, against those who think different then you, the individual, are dutifully required to follow suit. Even if that means bullying someone, or persecuting them because they are different. But Paul says, this is not the way to walk in love by faith and stay out of being pigeon holed.

On the other side of the coin, if you believe that because you and your group is different that you are receiving sub-par treatment and persecution, then you start looking at all the bad in your life and how “being different” brought you to this miserable state of being.

We are not victims of this world and our choices, but witnesses to them.

We have a rare opportunity to be the light of the world, the city set high upon the hill, the salt that adds to the flavor of life. We are not victims! We are victors! We are over-comers! We choose life and light and godliness!Strong Romans 837-001

“Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors (super conquerors) through him that loved us.” Romans 8:37

God bless you today!