Fluff is the edification, praise and recognition that we humans crave.
Is there ever too much, and how do you give the right kind?
There are two kinds of fluff. One kind is flattery which is fake or forced. This is the compliment someone didn’t think about before hand and doesn’t really believe when they give it to you. Why would someone flatter you? Or more importantly, why would you do this to someone else? Attention. It’s too much. It’s “over the line” of genuine admiration and it’s easy to spot. Many times people give it to manipulate the circumstances. Our society gives out fluff regularly to get a desired result. Think of the car sales man who compliments a man’s “lovely bride”. The overweight woman standing behind him with two missing front teeth and a leash tied around his neck. 🙂
But what about godly fluff? God created us to crave attention from a young age. One of the greatest corporate motivators is recognition. We just want someone to tell us…”Well Done!” So what is the second kind of fluff? I think it’s safe to re-label it as genuine edification and admiration. What does God think and do to edify his kids?
God gives out compliments. In James 2:23 And the scripture was fulfilled which saith, Abraham believed God, and it was imputed unto him for righteousness: and he was called the Friend of God. God is the author of the Bible and he gave a very special and intimate compliment to Abraham by calling him a friend of himself. For me that would be written on my tombstone. What an amazing compliment! How about David, another of my favorite old testament prophets, God called him, “A man after Gods own heart.” Whoa! Now that’s a compliment and one God didn’t give out lightly. Which means you shouldn’t give them out lightly either. In fact the right way to give out a compliment is to go to God and ask him what to say. He knows. Trust me. He knows the hearts involved and most of all he knows what would do them the most good to hear.
How about in the new testament, Jesus called James and John a name in, Matthew 3:17, And James the [son] of Zebedee, and John the brother of James; and he surnamed them Boanerges, which is, The sons of thunder. How about that for a compliment? These two boys knew how to kick butt for God and that’s what he needed. Did you know God has specific compliments for you? I never got so blessed as the time I went to God and asked him, “Father, what do you think about me?” He knows doesn’t he? He might even have a nick name for you. But you’ll never know untill you ask.
James 1:5; If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.
Our worth and self-esteem isn’t wrapped up in what the world’s idea of fluff is. True worth comes from what God thinks of us, right? Ephesians is a wonderful love letter from God to you. It tells everything about what God did for you and how important you are to him. Take some time today to read through Ephesians. Ask God how he thinks about you and remember he will never contradict his written word.
I Corinthians 14:26 Let all things be done unto edifying.
Is there ever too much fluff? No, not if it’s the right kind. That would be like saying there is too much chocolate in the world. HA! Not possible.