Ephesians 4:18; Having the understanding darkened, being alienated from the life of God through the ignorance that is in them, because of the blindness of their heart.
Have you ever heard the phrase, “Absence makes the heart grow fonder.” Me too. It’s a bald face lie. The truth is absence makes the heart wander. Here we are approaching Thanksgiving and Christmas and what is the temptation with those hard relationships in your family? Avoidance, right. Well, let’s study this verse and see how it can help us understand the trick behind that old cliché and keep from getting snared by it.
First of all, what is the most important relationship you have? You and God. There is never any reason whatsoever to distance, or break fellowship with him. If something or someone is causing broken fellowship between you and God then that relationship needs to change not the one with God. He can help you make relationships work. But if they cause you not to talk to him…well you get my point.
Remember we’ve learned how to walk as a believer and in yesterday’s post I talked about pride being a big problem. This verse is the snowball effect of pride. What happens after pride enters the scenario? According to this verse it happens in this order.
- Understanding darkened.
- Alienated from the life of God
- Blindness of the heart. (A far worse condition than blindness of our physical eyes.)
See what I mean by snowball effect? Why is my understanding darkened? We walk away from the light.
Psalms 119:130; The entrance of thy words giveth light; it giveth understanding unto the simple.
Psalms 119:105; NUN. Thy word [is] a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path.
Matthew 5:16; Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.
If God’s Word is the light in a dark world what causes blindness?
2 Corinthians 4:4; In whom the god of this world hath blinded the minds of them which believe not, lest the light of the glorious gospel of Christ, who is the image of God, should shine unto them.
Does the wandering make sense now? How could we NOT wander when we are walking around in darkness. Distance makes the heart wander in other relationships too. Whether it be spouse, children, siblings, friends, co-workers etc. When you are away from them you don’t spend time understanding their heart, their point of view. There is broken fellowship and if the relationship matters fix that first.
Romans 12: 16-21 ;[Be] of the same mind one toward another. Mind not high things, but condescend to men of low estate. Be not wise in your own conceits. Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men. If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men. Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but [rather] give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance [is] mine; I will repay, saith the Lord. Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head. Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.
God wants us to get along. Don’t assume the worst, fix the broken fellowship. If you are out of fellowship with God. 1 John 1:9; If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us [our] sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. Relationships need apologies. But you can’t have one if you don’t communicate. Here comes Christmas and Thanksgiving. They are times of record-breaking, division and dysfunction in the family unit. Where is the Devil’s play ground?
Several days ago I offered a challenge. This can completely heal relationships if given a chance. It can also help you deal with what is about those relationships. Let me know how it’s going! I want to hear how you’re doing. 🙂