What is a Feeding Philosophy?
Parents learn right away that their babies will not go hungry without a fight. They need food and they will let you know they are hungry by giving hunger cues. You have what they want and need. There are different ways to go about filling this need.
- Hyper-scheduling their meals we’ll call it clock feeding. The clock reigns with an iron fist.
- Hunger cues alone, we’ll call it child-led feeding. Hunger alone is easily manipulated and random.
- Or parent directed feeding which is a combination of both clock and child led feedings. (For more information on these read On Becoming Baby Wise by Gary Ezzo M.A. and Robert Bucknam, M.D.)
Parent directed feedings bring the constant of time and the variable of the hunger cues together mediating both through parental assessment.
What does this have to do with my relationships?
Everything! Relationship success depends on how much you put into them. Each relationship, friendships, romantic relationships, our children, even our online behavior need our time, effort, input, and commitment. So how do we devote the right amount to each person? How do we spare enough time to get work done or do laundry? A feeding philosophy handles it all by using a schedule, hunger, and (GOD) Parent Directed Feeding or PDF philosophy.
- Matthew 5:6; Blessed [are] they which do hunger and thirst after righteousness: for they shall be filled.
- Philippians 4:19; But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus.
It even works with your relationship with God. Ask God what is a good amount of scheduled time with him. What should you be doing during that time? If there is more throughout the day, God bless!
On relationships, ask your PDF (God), “God, what schedule, if any, should I invest in my friendships.” He’ll tell you. Let’s say he says”Your friend lives in Alaska and you live in Hawaii so a phone call once a week is plenty. Then for any hunger cues such as missing them come up; web calls, email, or a visit might be in order.” God knows the exact recipe for success in each relationship you have. Regular scheduled calls/visits can help a friendship blossom into a lifelong (eternity long) relationship built on mutual respect. Trust is built because you know when they will be calling and you can clear your schedule and be 100% in the conversation. You might want to go to God ahead of time and ask what to say to bless that person during your scheduled call. If something comes up, be flexible.
What about with your online relationships? God (Parent Directed) can help you there as well. How much time online? Doing what? God wants us to fellowship with other healthy people and help those who need a little push. But it is very easy to get distracted online. If you know the schedule and the “plan,” ahead of time then all you have to do is stick with it.
God Bless You!