Raising Children Who Stand Strong

My husband was doing the dishes last night as my four-year-old stood nearby. We were chatting and the metaphor, “a bun in the oven” came out of my husbands mouth.

My son immediately asks, “A bun in the oven?”

My husband says, “No I meant a baby in the oven.”

Isaac asked, at an even higher pitch, “There was a baby in the oven?”

We both burst out laughing, “No, that means they are going to have a baby.”

“From the oven?” he replied, still startled about the sudden baby generating powers of our oven.

God designed this age of a child’s development as a very special time. They believe everything we say. They take all metaphors, jokes, fiction, movies, books, cartoons, stories and generally everything you say, literally. Sarcasm is not a trait kids are born with, but this is the time when it develops. Lack of trust, and commitment issues are not something kids are born with either, but this is the time when they develop those problems. Why do I say that? Because…


Trust is an emotional bridge built over the rushing waters and rocky chasms of life.

It is a parent’s responsibility to understand this and help them build the bridge. Children need to trust in what they know and believe to build self-esteem. And children from ages 3-5 do not have many outside points of reference. If you stay at home with your child, then those points of reference are you. This can frighten you as a parent, or you can let this knowledge fuel the engine of their faith.


Try to put yourself in God’s shoes. Why would He put this stage of development in children?

Keep in mind that He didn’t dish out Junior Holy Spirit. He gives everyone who believes Romans 10:9-10 the same package. They also have the same opportunity to access Him. And they believe everything they are told about Him.

How much easier would it be if you had no doubt, worry or fear that what you prayed for comes to pass? It’s a cinch.

Here’s my next example.

A few nights ago our city was battered by 70 mph winds, hail, and heavy rain. Many homes, and streets were flooded. Power outages caused parts of the city to go dark and the thunder shook the house we live in. Isaac and I were sitting on the couch when the severe storm warning came beeping across the TV. It scared Isaac a little as he was trying to understand what was going on. I told him that we could pray and ask God to protect us from the storm. He began to pray.

God, thank you for making the storm go away, and the thunder and the lightening too. (I’m paraphrasing)

In the name of Jesus Christ, amen.

Seconds later, the downpour cleared over our heads and we could walk out into a still cool night. It was awesome! We could see the storm all around us, but our neighborhood was quiet. I hugged Isaac and said, “Thank you! Thank you for praying for protection.”

(Trust me we had enjoyed enough of the rain by that point.) He was so proud.

The next day he told Bill, “I’m a protector.”

Did that build his faith? How about mine? Wow! It was awesome. We are helping him understand how to use the tools God gave him. He prays and people get healed. But that is because he sees his parents pray and people get healed. It’s normal to us. Why shouldn’t it be? If God made this stuff to work when and where we need it, why shouldn’t we use it against the adversary and adverse situations in our lives. That’s the reason we have the gift of Holy Spirit and power on high.

The devil hopes to build lies into the development and foundation of our children with his media. He hopes they will become cynical, sarcastic, bitter teenagers and adults who trust no one and especially not God. Why? Well, that makes them much more pliable to his other causes. It makes me sad when I see the defiant teenager who thinks they are taking on the world on their own. That’s exactly what the devil wants. Lonely mad teenagers. Instead we can raise children who never fall for that lie. They stand strong in their faith in God through Jesus Christ. I can’t be with my son 24×7. But God is. If Isaac knows how to be on the God team, he’ll succeed in everything he does. This is just the beginning of a life of miracles and I can’t wait to see what’s next.

“Whosoever therefore shall humble himself as this little child, the same is greatest in the kingdom of heaven.” Matthew 18:4

“And that from a child thou hast known the holy scriptures, which are able to make thee wise unto salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus” 2 Timothy 3:15

God bless you today!

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