Babies, and especially toddlers, know from the start how to throw a five-star tantrum. But is that how adults should act? What if it’s an ingrained habit that you grew up with? Is it available to control an out-of-control temper?
Our next characteristic of the Love of God is;
“Is Not Easily Provoked”
“Do not be easily aggravated into responding sharply in an angry emotionally charged manner.”
The last couple of words makes all the difference. “Emotionally charged manner” or launching, tells me this is not godly anger; such as when Jesus over threw the money changing tables in the temple.
Baby’s react circumstantially. As they grow though, they need to learn how to control those tempers. Remember the love of God is to obey His commands and His commands are not grievous or hard to do. His love, agape, “is not easily provoked.” Therefore a bad temper cannot be blamed on genes, or our parents historical origin. It has to be something we can control.
Here are 4 tips on how to overcome a quick temper.
- Practice Checking In with God: When something comes up, STOP before you react and ask God what He would do in your situation. You can practice this by taking old routines and giving them a fresh coat of God’s perspective. Example: you drive the same way to work or the grocery story every time. Ask God next time, how to get there. You might be surprised that He has a treasure in store for you. Proverbs 3:5-6
- Practice getting quiet on the inside: Practice the opposite of launching. (You’ve done that for your whole life and where has it taken you?) Great cargos in life come in over quiet seas. Spend 5-30 minutes a day forcing your mind to be quiet. It takes time to master, but it is available. Our minds are a muscle and must do what we tell them to do. Here’s how: Pick a quiet part of the house. Put all the circumstances out of your mind. Pray for help, and then watch the clock tick by as you settle into a no-thoughts-allowed zone for five minutes. Work your way up to thirty. Your mind then gets used to sitting quiet instead of running all over. Think of a perfectly trained bird dog. They sit still, waiting for the master’s command. Puppies certainly don’t come that way they are trained that way. You are in charge of your thoughts and your determination in making them obey will determine your success. “Thou wilt keep [him] in perfect peace, [whose] mind [is] stayed [on thee]: because he trusteth in thee.” Isaiah 26:3
- Get around others who regularly practice these first two steps: It changed my life dramatically when I got around a group of people who really worked at these first two steps. In fact, it was difficult to go back to the people who emotionally launch on you at every turn after that. I understand that you may be the only person you know who now knows this. If that’s the case, dive in right here at Supporting Godly Women! There are over 300+ posts, plus other websites and pages connected with us that you are welcome to get involved in. Not to mention there are some upcoming webinars hosted by Supporting Godly Women. If you’re interested in attending, email us at Terri@TerriPorta.com or message us on Facebook.
- Good Habits are Worth Building: Habits take approx. 21 days of concerted effort to build. Three weeks of building results in a lifetime of peace. Is that worth it for you? I’m not saying things won’t come up. They will, but now you’ll be equipped emotionally to handle them. And these are so simple even a child could do them.
- Avoid Triggers: A habit pattern of thinking has triggers associated with it. For example; If I know that every time I watch the news my blood boils, that is a trigger. Or if I see a baseball game, football game, or certain inciting friend, then I need to put some distance between me and that trigger until God tells me it’s okay to return. Triggers, like on a gun, get us emotionally fired up in the blink of an eye. The greatest thing about the first two steps is; you can ask God what triggers are in your life. What gets you running blindly out of control? God gave us the spirit of love, power and a SOUND MIND. We can hear His guidance when we triumph in a sound mind.
“Ye are of God, little children, and have overcome them: because greater is he that is in you, than he that is in the world!” 1 John 4:4
God bless you today!
To Read earlier posts click below;
:001 Look With Me, Closely
:002 What is God Like?
:003 Harvesting Patience
:004 What is the Antidote to Bitterness?
:005 How To: Fight Jealousy
:006 Would it Annoy You Like It Does God?
:007 Should We Bless or Impress?
:008 Have You Ever Said This?
:009 If He Would Just Stop Being So Self-Centered!