Kyle walked up to the large commercial office
building and sighed in frustration.
So much for getting this right, he thought bitterly. He looked down at the three hundred keys on the large ring of keys he collected over the last forty-years and sighed again. Resentment built-in his mind until the tension of it made him want to scream. How could they expect him to figure out which one of these keys would fit in the three back offices that needed their light fixtures fixed? He walked up and down the halls testing the keys on the ring. The frustration and stress began to mount as he put them in and out, wiggled and fought with them. Finally, he looked up and saw the owner of the building standing in the hall. The owner smiled and walked over to him.
“Excuse me, I’ve tried to open these doors for three days! None of these keys fit!” Kyle blurted out.
The man gently took out three keys from his pocket and handed them to him, “Here ya go Kyle, and on this one, pull first then turn the knob, it sticks. Oh and this one,” he lifts another key, “you need to squirt some oil in the keyhole first nobody’s used this one in a long time,” he finishes.
“Thank you Sir!” Kyle says with relief. It then took him a very short amount of time and he had everything done and was on his way.
Imagine for a moment the “building” is our life and the “offices” are all our relationships. There are keys to fit each door. The keys Kyle collected for forty years didn’t fit in the new doors because everyone’s situation is unique. He tried to get in to those doors and found the way he usually got in, didn’t work. But the owner, God, knows just the key to help you unlock the door and smoothly operate inside the relationship. He knows that sometimes you have to give a little wiggle to the keys before it will open and He is happy to help you.
Romans 12:18; If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.
If it’s possible– live at peace. When you ask God how to get along, essentially you are doing this command; “with as much as lieth in you live peaceably with all men.” You are doing the Word. Our goal is to be doers of the Word, not hearers only. If God knows a relationship will become a peaceful one, let Him tell you how. It is easy for me to assume I know someone better than God knows them, but that simply is not true. God knows that person inside and out. AND He loves them! He wants the best and highest use of your time, resources, skills and abilities.
Here are 10 keys to full and rich relationships with people.
- Don’t force it. God knows and loves your heart and the other person’s. Let Him help you iron out the kinks and oil out the squeaks. Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart, lean not on your own understanding, in all your ways acknowledge him and he shall direct thy paths.
- Be patient. Sometimes you have to put up with people’s short comings to enjoy their long suits. Look at the longterm goal. If the relationship is hard now, hang in there and remember how many times God is patient with you.
- Learn the 15 characteristics of God’s love and operate them as often as you can. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 is a reference of how God treats you. It’s the expectations/or standard we can set for ourselves.
- Ask God to show you if there is a future in the relationship. It is available to know, in many cases, if things will ever change. But be prepared for the good or the bad. If good, be blessed. If not, be blessed because now you know.
- Get rid of UN-healthy expectations. Part of “Believing all things” is believing the God’s best of people not what we think. Too high of expectations can lead to resentment, which leads to bitterness. Too low of expectations can be harmful as well. Put your hopes in what God hopes for in the situation, and you’ll protect yourself and them.