I’m certain that God put the “S” personality here to keep us all stable and loved. This week if you’ve followed along on the personality posts, we are making our way through the D.I.S.C. personality styles. IF you don’t know what I’m talking about and want to catch up, click here to read the first post.
Today, we have made it on to the supportive “S” style of personality.
S personalities are thankfully the ones God has to take care of and pray for the rest of us. We said “I” personality styles are tender-hearted and they are, but the S personality is tender-hearted and very concerned about others. “S” stands for Supportive and they just make this world a better place to exist in. These are the sweethearts and mediators among us who will are happy anywhere they go. To them, “it really doesn’t matter that much.” And they don’t understand why other personalities get so upset about things. They are mild-mannered, sweet and the closest thing to being a well-balanced person. Here is a brief description of the supportive S.
This chart shows how we can identify a high S personality. An “S” personality will laugh with people who laugh and cry with those who cry. They are emotional rescuers. They have a deep inner desire to rescue people and animals, and they must have been the ones who started the animal shelters. They are more introverted by nature and will linger around the edge of a conversation unless invited in. A popular D or I personality, would walk to the center of the crowd and ask “What are you talking about?” Not an S.
S personalities, especially when blended with C personalities, sometimes shut down in social settings. Then they feel bad because they are not the outgoing I or D type and wonder what’s wrong with them.
Trust me, nothing is wrong with you!
Stop trying to diagnose your personality with a disease or disorder. Embrace and enjoy your differences. It’s part of what and who you are. One of the most important lessons to learn is how to get quiet inside with God, how to stay quiet is the next great lesson. This type of learning comes easy for the S and SC types. They wondered what all the fuss was about in the first place.
“Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee.” Isaiah 26:3
“He maketh the storm a calm, so that the waves thereof are still. Then are they glad because they be quiet; so he bringeth them unto their desired haven.” Psalms 107:29-30
“But whoso hearkeneth unto me shall dwell safely, and shall be quiet from fear of evil.” Proverbs 1:33
S personality styles are the peace-makers, the care givers, the teachers and the nurses. Most of the people in helping professions are heavy on S personality styles. You may be surprised who I found in the Bible that reminds me of this amazing personality style.
Yep…you guessed it the Apostle Paul again.
“But as we were allowed of God to be put in trust with the gospel, even so we speak; not as pleasing men, but God, which trieth our hearts. For neither at any time used we flattering words, as ye know, nor a cloke of covetousness; God is witness:
Nor of men sought we glory, neither of you, nor yet of others, when we might have been burdensome, as the apostles of Christ.
But we were gentle among you, even as a nurse cherishes her children: So being affectionately desirous of you, we were willing to have imparted unto you, not the gospel of God only, but also our own souls, because ye were dear unto us.” 1 Thessalonians 2:4-8
Do you see where the last verse there really peels back the motivations of Paul’s ministry and heart? Look at the language he uses. “A nurse cherishing her children”. There is no more intimate and special time in a bond between child and mother than when she nurses him/her. They are completely embraced in love. “We were affectionately desirous of you… because you were dear unto us.” This is the helping, tender, concerned love of a friend or caretaker.
It just melts my heart!
There are downsides to this personality like any of the others, but don’t worry, I’ll get through this fast so it won’t hurt.
S personalities tend to clam up during conflict. They also will shut down and say “I don’t care about the outcome.” This can be dangerous because when a D personality is around they will take charge and overrun the S. An I will manipulate the S and a C, well we’ll get to that tomorrow. There is a difference between supporter and sucker. Don’t let your opinions be shoved to the wayside. Your opinions and perspectives could be what saves us all. Let yourself be heard even if it’s hard to speak up.
Where a D pushes and constantly wants to change things an S personality resists change and may even lack initiative. The S says, “If it ain’t broke why change it.” D personality will often times get impatient or think wrongly that an S is lazy. S’s don’t be tempted to slow down or stop, especially when it involves speaking the Word or doing the Word of God in your life. We want to not just be hearers, but doers too.
Self-assessment is always a chance to improve, and S’s like the other personalities do not get out of it. Every personality style has traits of under control and out of control. Look at the chart below and figure out where you stand.
S personality styles are the most gentle and loving people in the world. There is more about each one of the styles in the book by Angel Tucker called “Stop Squatting with Your Spurs On”. I highly recommend every one to read this informative book. Not just because you learn about yourself, but because every one of us is a blend and need to learn how to deal with other people.
God Bless You Today.
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