A Hot, Spicy Love Life ~ God’s Style

Photo taken by Bill Porta

First, lets admit that relationships need SPICE!

Here are two spices to help improve your love life. These are common everyday things, that are regularly taken for granted. Song of Solomon 2:16 My beloved is mine and I am his…


  1. Oxytocyn-is a hormone. Hormones have a Godly design in our biology. Oxytocin’s nickname is the “Love Potion”. It has been proven to increase the bonds of trust, love and intimacy in relationships. “How do I get this hormone going?” you ask. Physical touch. Some of you are cringing right now. Consider how easy God made it for you to feel, trust, love and intimacy with your man. When you use your muscles, more than usual, you’re body builds them up according to that usage. You’re hormones work the same way. For example: a new mother is bonded to her child with this powerful hormone. They are in physical contact all the time. (Even adopted children can bond, due to Oxytocin) Is there anything more beautiful to see, than one of two kinds of woman, a new mother, or a woman in love? She glows! And that’s because oxytocin is one of the hormones being secreted into her brain.  Okay, now its time to try it! Just remember, the more often you hug on your man, the more you’re going to want to hug on your man. Then watch out! Song of Solomon 1:2 Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: for thy love is better than wine.
  2. Now we’ve come to a little known aphrodisiac called, thankfulness. Though its not a chemical, it is powerful. Thankfulness is oil in the machine of life. The number one reason condemnation wiggles into relationships, is from lack of thankfulness. When you use thankfulness, you boost your man’s natural need for feeling useful to the world, and especially to you. 1st Thessalonians 5:18 In every thing give thanks for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you. I find that as soon as I step out of condemnation and into thankfulness, my heart becomes joyful. Proverbs 17:22 A merry heart does good like a medicine: but a broken spirit dries the bones. Suddenly you have two people whose chemistry is bubbling, and their hearts are merry towards each other. Wow! If this doesn’t fry your pancake I don’t know what will!

(One small piece of advice; if you are wondering what to be thankful for in your relationship, ask God. The creator of the universe has specific insight on the subject. So ask God what you should be thankful for. The revelation may surprise you. Proverbs 3:5-6 for reference)

In conclusion; it is God’s will and PLAN for us to have spice in our love life. He built hormones into us that increase trust, love, and bonding. And thankfulness to keep the ball rolling. Intimacy is something He designed.

What will you do with all the new spice in your love life?

Women of W.O.W. ~ Winning Over Weight Support Group, Park City, MT

I am thrilled to say that there is a Weight Loss Support Group out there that is Winning over Weight! They meet in the Park City Baptist Church in Park City, Montana. This is a group of truly beautiful women who, aside from losing weight together, have taken on the challenge of supporting each other through the process. It is fun, upbeat, edifying and stock full of nutritional information. Not to mention the great teaching from the Bible about your body and God.  If you are out in Park City, 6:30 p.m. on Monday nights, I highly recommend you stop by and see why the church is rockin’.  Also thanks to all the ladies for allowing me the opportunity to come speak on my three part foundational series on believing God. Good luck to all who are wrestling with weight loss in their lives! I look forward to my next speech with you on February 21st, 2011!

The Four D’s of Motivation

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Have you ever gotten half-way into a project and thought, “Why am I doing this?Or maybe you are wanting to start a project, but just can’t find the emotional energy, or motivation to get started? How about losing weight? Starting a new church? Reading your Bible more often? Or just completing one of the New Year’s Resolutions you made.

You are not alone! Many times the reason for this lack of follow-thru or real motivation is because there is a misunderstanding of how motivation works. Here is 4 simple points on how true motivation can be achieved and positive results can happen in any area of your life.

The Four D’s of Motivation.

  1. Decision – Decision is always the starting point. Ninety-two percent of all failure is due to the inability to make a decision. A great thing to decide first would be–deciding to believe the promises of God. Did you know there are over 900 promises in the Word of God! 900! There are 900 ways God wants to bless you in your life. Decide to believe that they are true and see what happens next.
  2. Desire – It is the emotional pull or the gas in the car called motivation. True sustainable desire — to see something through to the end — comes from making a decision first. Think about the just-graduated, high-school student, who doesn’t yet know if they want to attend college, start working first, or just live at home until they’re thirty-five. Is there anything more painful to witness? But, once that young person “decides” what to do, suddenly a new energy springs out of them towards that decision. That energy is desire. In the case of believing God’s promises, this energy prompts a hunger to know more. A hunger to open the Word and chase down every promise laying  in wait to bless you.
  3. Details – Details are the “how” of the Decision.  These will come as a person walks out on those decisions. Finding that promise in the word that pertains to you. Like Philipians 4:19, or Ephesians 3:20, 3rd John 2, or even Malachi 3:10. These can–WHEN believed–create a personal revolution in your life. For the college freshman its in finding the school, talking to professors, and planning on a payment. Details bring about number four.
  4. Deliverance – Deliverance is not just for one area of life, when you are talking about the God and his Word. Deliverance means all 5 areas of life: Spiritual, Financial, Emotional/Mental, Physical, and Relationships. Imagine if you took just one area of your life! Decided to believe the promises of God in that area, obtained a great deliverance, lost weight, found a college, financial freedom, and/or emotional healing occurred. Wouldn’t you get excited to keep going? Its available. And now I want to mention the wrong way to get motivated.

There are also four D’s of Failure, watch this example carefully. (Notice the order of the first two.)

  1. Desire- Emotions make the decision. “This business deal sounds really good.”
  2. Decision – “Following a well meaning friend into a business partnership seemed okay at first…”
  3. Dilemma – “What do you mean you(my well-meaning friend) can’t afford to pay the rent like you said?”
  4. Destruction – “Now I’m facing bankruptcy, loss of relationship, health issues, emotional ruin.”

Exciting isn’t it? To understand that it’s not you! It’s just the way you went about doing it. When you allow emotions to control your decisions you will constantly be manipulated by that well-meaning person. Easily manipulated. Even a child can manipulate emotions. Think of what a professional trained person (such as the devil) could do! God’s Word on the other hand never jumped up off your bed stand and started trying to manipulate you. It sits. It waits until you make the decision to read it. The promises are there for when you decide to believe them to come to pass in your life. God gave us free will for a reason. He also gave us the most advanced computer on Earth inside our heads. How will you use yours to get MOTIVATED?

A Revolt on Sarcasm

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Leading a revolt is not something I would normally engage in. Today however, is the perfect day for a sign-toting, parade-forming, march-on-Washington, kind of revolt. It starts with first understanding the overwhelming need for a Revolt on Sarcasm.

When dealing with people do you notice an undertone of sarcasm in your conversation? Do you detect a faint hint of a mocking joke? Ah, the classic symptoms are there. Main stream media and entertainment is filled with sarcasm, but why? And it IS entertaining! But do we really need it in our daily lives? What does it tell us about the person delivering the stench-filled pong of satirical rhetoric?

The evidence of sarcasm in one’s life, is proof of a seed buried in the soil of their heart. That seed is called bitterness.

Bitterness, when left untreated, affects every area of life especially attitudes towards people.

How many times have you seen the effects of bitterness on a person.  This is the person who upon introduction to any positive event, quickly mobilizes, using sarcasm to disassemble that event. Why? Is that positive event, lets say for instance a miracle, a threat to them? Is it a bomb needing to be deactivated for fear that it would explode and kill millions? A miracle? Miracles and positives under attack are placed there by the bitter remnants of a heart left untreated.

It says in Ephesians 4: 31-32 (KJV) Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking be put away from you with all malice: 32. And be ye kind one to another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.

If sarcasm’s root is born in the seed of bitterness then lets start at the seed. Bitterness is an invasive weed, choking out all productivity in the heart. We’ve all seen the harried housewife with three miserable children making loud sarcastic comments to their beleaguered husband in the middle of the grocery store. (Dare I say, that I’ve ever been that woman!) This woman’s heart is full of anger, resentment and bitterness. Oh what is to be done?

What is the cure?

But alas, the cure lies there in the scriptures (God’s revealed Will to his kids)Ephesians  4:31 Be ye kind one to another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another. But how! How can a woman whose heart is filled to the brim with this filthy stuff get rid of it all? Be ye kind. Kindness is the only known cure for bitterness. Not just any kindness either. This is a much bigger the right thing at the right time kind of kindness. In the Greek this word kindness (according to my Strong’s concordance) is chrestos- meaning gracious and goodness coming from the root word chraomai-meaning to furnish what is needed at the time. Now you know the cure for bitterness lets talk about how one would acquire just the right kindness to do the job.

Who better to go to than God, to find out what will be just right in the situation?

Proverbs 3:5  Trust in the Lord with all your heart, lean not unto thine own understanding. James 2:5  If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him. Here is the tool and it’s God’s best in every situation! How can you go wrong when its his ultimate wisdom and knowledge.

For the good of this revolt may I point out…

When you go to God, keep in mind a simple question. A question that will move you out of hardness and rebellion and into meekness. That is “God if you were me, how would you get over the bitterness in this situation?” You can’t go wrong by asking that simple phrase. Phil. 2:13 For it is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of his good pleasure. He’s made his will clear back in Ephesians 4:31. (see top of blog page)

Now lets start our revolt against sarcasm, one heart at a time. Are you with me?

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