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Isn’t it time you…

It’s been awhile since I posted last and I’m happy to say, I haven’t been gone forever, just busy. Today, I’d like to invite you to join us. We’ll be doing our first 8 week Bible study/workshop on the “5 Basics for Growth” Book. As I’ve been preparing for this workshop setting, I realised that each chapter touches on a subject in a very simple way that could be studied in far more depth. We are going to have so much fun, and don’t worry there’s not a ton of homework, just a ton of learning. Here is a video commercial that I hope you’ll all share on your social media pages.

God’s Word is Pure, There Are No Toxins

Our criticisms are ours alone to carry. They do nothing but prevent strong relationships, strong self-esteem and rob us and others of a greater sense of accomplishment. We alone live in isolation from them.

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I have felt the brunt of other people’s criticism, at times, and realized that I don’t need to carry someone else’s opinion of me around with me. That burden is their hardship. I can leave their opinions right where I found them, with none the worse for wear. You see, I get to decide what information I keep. I get to stop hurtful criticisms before I take them personally. And I alone allow the good things into my heart like the Word of God.

It reminded me of this fabulous verse.

“Keep (guard) thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.” Proverbs 4:23

Our heart is our inner most thoughts of our mind. This should be a tightly controlled secure zone. No thoughts get in or out with a complete screening by the guard (you) and the Keeper, (God).

We’ve been told a lie.

From our teenage years up we start putting ourselves down. We start comparing and getting lots of outside information about our inner thought life. We decide early to take it into our hearts and believe it. But we aren’t taught how to filter and guard that information, or judge whether it is good for us to hear. Until one day we become our own worst enemy! Now we can’t trust even our own thoughts and mind because it will attack.

Do you know what cancer is? It’s when our own physical cells turn against us. Our bodies naturally want to heal. But cancer and AIDS and lots of other diseases, make our bodies fight that good natural order. It eats us from the inside out. Suddenly, we can’t trust our own cells to know what’s good for them. We have to inundate them with something radical and change their attitudes.

“But now ye also put off all these; anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy communication out of your mouth. (about yourself)

Lie not one to another (or to yourself), seeing that ye have put off the old man with his deeds;”

 Colossians 3:8-9

Other people did this stuff to us, they trained us, so now we do it to ourselves. Yet there is no profit in it. We have to decide to take in the new radical change and trust that God knows what is good for us to think, hear, speak and believe. His word is pure. There are no toxins!

As you read this section think of how you treat yourself…

“And have put on the new man, which is renewed in knowledge after the image of him that created him:

Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering;

Forbearing one another (yourself!), and forgiving one another (yourself!), if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye. (for yourself!)

And above all these things put on charity (agape), which is the bond of perfectness (maturity).

And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to the which also ye are called in one body; and be ye thankful. (for yourself!)

Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord.

And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him.” Colossians 3:12-17

You were created for success in all things. You were created to do good works by your Father. He loves and wants you to see the highest and best potential in your life. Sometimes that means forgetting the criticisms and clinging to the truth about yourself. When changing your attitude and renewing your mind about yourself, …

“And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men;” vs 23

It takes hard work.

You have to stop yourself mid-thought and change the direction. You have to develop new habit patterns of thinking God’s Word about yourself.

“Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;” 2 Corinthians 10:5

It is called pride when you exalt other opinions over God’s. That includes your opinions about yourself. Isn’t pride what got the devil thrown out of heaven?

You have to decide to leave other people’s criticism and condemnation on the road where you found it. God thinks you’re worth that and HE knows everything. He especially knows what’s best for us.

“This then is the message which we have heard of him, and declare unto you, that God is light, and in him is no darkness at all. If we say that we have fellowship with him, and walk in darkness, we lie, and do not the truth:” 1 John 1:5-6

We want to do the truth!

God bless you today!


This is a new section. I’m going to add in a little exercise that you can do to practice this principle.

What you’ll need:

  1. Empty Notepad
  2. Pen/Pencil
  3. 30 Minutes of Quiet time

Sit comfortably and speak in tongues for 5 minutes while controlling your thoughts. Think only of yourself, your body, your mind, and your healing.

Open your eyes and ask God these kind of questions:

  • God, if you were me, how would you think of My life?
  • God, if you were me, how would you think of me personally?
  • God, if you were me, what kind of person do you think I am?
  • God, if you were me, how would you change how I think of myself.
  • God, if you were me, what would you shoot for in my life goal-wise?
  • God, if you were me, what area would you say I’m best at.

When you think of answers, write them down. Write down the first thing that pops into your head. If you see anything written that is unedifying, a criticism, or negative, that thought was not from God. Soon you’ll be able to suss out the thoughts He gives and your thoughts. So go back again and again.

Repeat exercise everyday for 5 days, then ever other day for the next 10.

After that, ask God for a prescription for further doses of this medicine. He may say, take a dose once a week for the next year, He may say more or less.

Keep in mind this is your walk with Him. It will rise or fall to the degree of seriousness, effort and believing you put into it.

I heard once this statement, “The beginning of knowledge is after you think you know it all”. LET God in. Let Him correct what the World has taught you about yourself. Trust me you are worth it!

020: 5 Ingredients that Build Great Friendships

Friends are special. In my last post, we talked about koinonia, the full sharing kind of friendship. Koinonia is not safe to have with everyone. In fact, if you have one person in your life you can fully koinonia with, you are blessed. If you have more, you are spoiled! Koinonia is like the Rolls Royce of friendships. It has to be built over time and it is very rare. The world throws “best friend” around trying to describe it, but really, to really see incredible closeness and honesty, you have to do it God’s way. He did after all design it godly friendship.

Here are the five ingredients to koinonia and amazing friendships.

  1. Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship (koinonia) hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?” 2 Corinthians 6:14. This verse is written to the Church of God. And is a very strong warning about who you koinonia with or fully share your heart with. Be picky. Your heart is a very special and fought over thing. The devil, if given the chance, would break it and break it and break it until there was nothing left. Make sure when you fully share your heart with someone, first that someone is trust worthy and a like-minded believer. Wearing your heart on your sleeve has never been a good idea.
  2. Stick to the Light. “But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship (koinonia) one with another, and the blood of Jesus Christ his Son cleanseth us from all sin.” 1 John 1:7. Find a group of fellow believers who you can be real with. Who will take you back to the Word of God when you feel off your game. People who love and support you. That may only be a small group, but find them. If you are looking for a group that meets like that I suggest trying our Supporting Godly Women meetings, every Wednesday night. Friend me on Facebook and then sign up for notifications if you don’t live in Billings, MT. We send out a link to join us online, every week. We’d love to have you. Our meeting is about learning God’s Word, and loving each other.
  3. Work it out. Two people who come with millions of dissimilar thoughts, experiences, personalities and goals can live and grow up in the same family. All those nuances and differences don’t have to be a stumbling block. They can, instead, build on you as a person, because you can learn from them and they you. When these differences erupt into a disagreement, work it out. “Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:” Eph. 4:26. Hang in there until it’s fixed. Communication is the key to great relationships. “Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.” Ephesians 4:29. Great communication, leads to great friendships. But there has to be boundaries and rules. If I know I’m going to call my friend and all she’s going to do is criticize how I’ve handled my life and affairs, I’m going to distance myself, and vice versa. You can’t always be 100% the cheerleader, but that’s where the Word comes in. Even if it corrects us, it edifies us. There has to be room for that in any friendship. SGWgal
  4. These next two are usually missing from Christian friendships. “Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.” Ephesians 4:31-32. It’s so easy to let an old wound grow into bitterness than doesn’t get taken care of. Then, after a while, the friendship fades. Tender-hearted and kindly reaching out to bless a heart whether they appreciate it or not, heals even the deepest wounds.
  5. Make agape’ your standard. Agape is loving with the conscious decision to do, say or act the way God wants you to act. This includes adjusting your expectations. Ask God what you should expect from a friendship then re-adjust to what He says. Some people are really sentimental and supportive, others are not. If we know that ahead of time we can bless them just the way they need to be and love them up like God does. Agape’ is the true indicator of koinonia. And God is the most like-minded friend we could ever want to know. He gave us the gift of Holy Spirit so we could manifest His love in our friendships. Koinonia is only listed for the church of God. Never is it listed before the day of Pentecost, nor after the resurrection. It is a special administration just for this period of time. It can only be done with the access we now have as children of God.  Learn what the characteristics of agape are. Agape means, The Love of God, in the renewed mind, IN manifestation. What better place to practice this then on our friends. It is a spiritual love, not an emotional human one. Which means checking in with God and learning what to pray for, or what to say, is exactly the best thing for each friendship you have.

I hope these bless you today. I know my friendships all mean a lot to me. Yours too.  Koinonia is worth fighting for. It is the premier of all relationships. Strive to find someone today who you can have full sharing with. IF you don’t have anyone you always have God, who loves you like no one else could.

God bless you today!

018: 4 Shocking Things that Shatter Fear

“I want to live in the fast lane. I want to reach for the biggest life I can”, Cynthia thought to herself. “So why can’t I get through this blockage of fear? Why can’t I break down that feeling right at the moment of needing strength? I want something big to start happening. I want to win the metal and not settle for any less.”

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1. Embrace Truth

All truth needs is proclamation.

And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you freeIf the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed.”John 8:32 & 36

Let truth do it’s work. What is truth’s job? It shatters fear by making you free! So proclaim it over every situation that comes your way. There is one event that caused 12 men to come out from hiding behind doors, locked in fear, to the front of spotlight. What event? The pouring out of the gift of Holy Spirit.

2. Receive Power

“But ye shall receive power, after that the Holy Ghost is come upon you:” Acts 1:8

This was a promise, and it was true for the apostles on the Day of Pentecost. Is it any less true today? Absolutely not. We serve a living and very powerful God. When we believe God raised Jesus Christ from the dead, we too are given great power. Power over the adversary in every situation of our lives.

They received power. “Received” there is the Greek word Lambano, which means they received into manifestation. They had to believe and act. That brought the power out. God cannot steer a parked car. There needs to be action. Action declares your motives. If someone says they want to run a 4-minute mile and a week later they haven’t worked out once, I know they are not running in anything. ACT is a little word, but it shatters fear, motivate you, empower the goal and manifest power. If you want the power, you will act. In this case that means speak in tongues, ask God for word of wisdom, and word of knowledge. You will endeavor to learn. We are partners with God, not robots under His control. We must do our part.

3. Focus on Your Thoughts and Think Positive

Our thoughts are like the captain of the ship. They direct where the ship goes. Will the boat drive into a chaotic storm of confusion and become powerless against it? Or will our thoughts direct us to the promise land of peace, love, power, the renewed mind and the rightly divided Word of God? Only the captain decides.

“Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee.” Isaiah 26:3

STAY. That is a great word. Stay your mind on God and His Word. When you do that, it’s like sitting down to your favorite meal. A meal where fear is not invited.

“Thy words were found, and I did eat them; and thy word was unto me the joy and rejoicing of mine heart: for I am called by thy name, O LORD God of hosts.” Jeremiah 15:16

4. Work Hard

Work hard and heartily unto the Lord. Your work is the cultivation of a prosperous life. It doesn’t just happen. You have to work at it. Get some sweat on your brow. God thrives in the common everyday routines of the believer who won’t give up. Be diligent. And hold on to that.

“And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men; Knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance: for ye serve the Lord Christ.” Colossians 3:23-24

Let God reward you. What would a reward from God look like? Freedom from Fear, Power over it, Peace, Joy and an inheritance that propels you through eternity.

Why are these four steps shocking?

They are ridiculously simple. That’s why they are shocking. The things of God are simple but they are easy as well. How hard is it to get up in the morning? Not hard. Just prioritize and get up a little earlier so you can study and read the Word.

Four shockingly easy and simple steps lead to a life most people dream about. God knows you best, ask Him how to get started. Then do it now.

God bless you today!

017: Something Big is Happening

Do you feel it? Do you feel the tension? We might as well join in. We might as well look into it. We might as well feel it all the way to our bones. What is it?


We’ve all heard of revival as a sort of gathering. There are usually tents, or big social events with lots of motivational talks from leadership in the church…but that’s not this kind of revival.

Ya know… The devil has revivals too. He kicks everyone p into a frenzy over certain topics hot in the world. It brings out the claws and teeth on anyone with a conscience. Still, that’s not what I feel. It’s not what I’m talking about either.

What am I talking about?

It’s Friday, all week we’ve been talking about blogging and about talking. What we say is what helps us believe. What we believe is what takes us places in our life and gets us results. So…where do you want to go in life? How far do you want to take it with God and with yourself? Do you want to grow. Do you want truth and love and results to spread through your soul like a wild-fire on a hot, windy, dry day? Do you want to see passion ignite? Are you ready to see things change in your life? God is! I know I am for myself! There is nothing so thrilling than seeing a miracle come to pass.

“So then faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the word of God.” Romans 10:17

Are you ready to see something big happen today? Revival happens moment by moment one life at a time. I dare you to get quiet in your mind and with your whole heart ask God, is there anything you can do to bless Him today. The very first thought you get is His. It’s not the one that when your logical mind jumps in, the one right before that. God’s spirit works in you outside of your understanding. It will feel like you, but listen close. Let Him fill in the blessing. Let Him work inside you. We have to believe to hear from Him, we have to want it. I guarantee when you go through the steps, something big will happen to you today.

God bless you today!

015: 7 Phrases That Screw Us Up & 7 That Make Us Better

The way we phrase things can sink us lower into ourselves, or it can lift us out it. I love this “Pin It” thing. Did you know you can google inspirational quotes and little word pictures will cover you in great thoughts. I could sit and think and read them all day long. Then something occurred to me, when someone quoted me the first cliché’ on the list below and I stopped in my tracks. I couldn’t believe it. I suddenly realized it was “Not-Not” thinking.

 What is “Not-Not” thinking?

Let me explain. People who read self-help books rarely help you get out of the problem they are in. Why? Well, think about it. If you pick up a book on alcoholism or depression what are you thinking about the whole time you’re reading it? Alcoholism and depression. The human brain, as advanced as it is, only hears the last half or last three words of any statement. Think of a two-year old, and think of telling him/her, “Don’t touch the TV.” guess what they hear. “Touch the TV?”, they go over and touch it. That’s what “Not-Not” thinking is. In the massive thrust of media noise most people hear in a day, what is the take away?

Look at some of these phrases.

  1. “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” Why not say instead, “Take a shot!” But no, now I’m thinking, I’m gonna miss if I take the shot!
  2. “You only lose if you quit trying.” or instead in the positive, “KEEP TRYING that’s how to win!”
  3. “Never give up.” This one is so tricky. What are the last two words I come away with? “Give up”.
  4. “When thing look the worst, just don’t you quit.” What does this make you inadvertently think about? Things are bad I should quit. Do you see what I mean now? The take away is negative. Even if the literal meaning is positive and encouraging, what gives off is the attitude and the heart of the statement. What we say has huge effects on how we deal with things. Are you positively negative, or positively positive?
  5. “Tough times never last, but tough people do.” What’s the take-away? Things are tough, I don’t think I’ll last b’cuz I’m not tough enough.
  6. Here’s another one: “You can’t start the next chapter, if you keep reading the last one.” The last chapter was bad, I keep reading it, I can’t go on.
  7. “There is no life so messed up that God cannot restore it.” What? My life is so messed up, God can’t restore it? The thought never occurred to me before now, wow!

Do you see how tricky this is?

These kind of quotes and sayings are from all over the world. If you can’t get God’s Word in them, they’ll get the world into you.

“Behold, we put bits in the horses’ mouths, that they may obey us; and we turn about their whole body. Behold also the ships, which though they be so great, and are driven of fierce winds, yet are they turned about with a very small helm, whither-soever the governor listeth.

Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth!…

10 Out of the same mouth proceedeth blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not so to be.” James 3:4-6, 10

Later, it reads…”Submit yourselves therefore to God, resist the devil and he will flee from you…” James 4:7

Jesus used the Word when he was tempted in the wilderness. He said, “It is written.”

Light dispels darkness! What can we say that will dispel darkness?


What are some words we can say that will empower instead of bind?

  1. “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.” Phil. 4:13 Is there any doubt here? NONE! It declares strength. It declares motive! It declares positive empowerment.
  2. “But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus.” Phil. 4:19 This verse sits just beyond the last and look at the believing, the power, the encouragement. What is truth? God’s Word is truth. We must speak what we want.
  3. “Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us,” Ephesians 3:19. Where does this hit you? Right in the heart!
  4. “According as he hath chosen us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before him in love:” Ephesians 1:4
  5. “In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.” 1 Thessalonians 5:18 What should our attitude be? One of gratitude. Why? It is the Will of God. If you ever wonder what you can do to bless God and be in the center of His Will, be thankful.
  6. “Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.” Ephesians 4:29. What are we supposed to say? What are we supposed to talk about? The devil is a sneaky subtle prick! He will use our own good intentions against us so that we say to ourselves negative, corrupt and putrid things, thinking we are helping the situation.
  7. And finally the pinnacle reason why I wrote this blog today. “Prove all things; hold fast that which is good.” 1 Thessalonians 5:21. This statement requires our diligence from the songs we sing to marking the words we say.  You can do it! I know you can.

If there’s anyone who can do it, it’s you!

God bless you today!


014: The Spiritual Shock of the Ages

The ground groaned and rumbled. The air-cooled, birds quieted and I heard the ripping of the earth below my feet. It was like no other sound or feeling I’ve ever had. My stomach hitched and my heart raced, did I know what this was? It must be an earthquake! Run! Hide! Find safety! That was all I could think.


When was the last time you felt like that? Sometimes emotional shocks can feel like that, but imagine this moment.

“Jesus, when he had cried again with a loud voice, yielded up the ghost. And, behold, the veil of the temple was rent in twain from the top to the bottom; and the earth did quake, and the rocks rent;…Now when the centurion, and they that were with him, watching Jesus, saw the earthquake, and those things that were done, they feared greatly, saying, Truly this was the Son of God.” Matthew 27:50-51,54

Jesus Christ’s death was significant. It proved the devil in all his cruelty had killed the Son of God. He was a man who never denied God, or his birthright. He stayed true to the truth of who he was and what he was, a son of man and the Son of God. But this was not the spiritual shock of the ages. The devil had reigned here on earth and planned to continue reigning. He killed Jesus Christ to prove that he could. But this isn’t where God won and the devil lost. Jesus Christ’s death had been prophesied about since Adam and Eve. That was no great thing. Men die. It was no great victory or shock. Men are still dying for causes today. Well then, was this next event the spiritual shock?

“In the end of the sabbath, as it began to dawn toward the first day of the week, came Mary Magdalene and the other Mary to see the sepulchre. And, behold, there was a great earthquake: for the angel of the Lord descended from heaven, and came and rolled back the stone from the door, and sat upon it. His countenance was like lightning, and his raiment white as snow: And for fear of him the keepers did shake, and became as dead men. And the angel answered and said unto the women, Fear not ye: for I know that ye seek Jesus, which was crucified. He is not here: for he is risen, as he said. Come, see the place where the Lord lay.” Matthew 28:1-6

Can you imagine seeing this? Wow! the earth shaking, the angel. WOWZAH! What an event! What a shock…no. It couldn’t have been a shock because the guards were put there because the pharisees expected him to rise again. Look at this verse.

“Now the next day, that followed the day of the preparation, the chief priests and Pharisees came together unto Pilate, Saying, Sir, we remember that that deceiver said, while he was yet alive, After three days I will rise again.” Matthew 27:62-63

So what was the surprise? What was such a shock to the spiritual ages?

“And suddenly there came a sound from heaven as of a rushing mighty wind, and it filled all the house where they were sitting. And there appeared unto them cloven tongues like as of fire, and it sat upon each of them. And they were all filled with the Holy Ghost, and began to speak with other tongues, as the Spirit gave them utterance. And there were dwelling at Jerusalem Jews, devout men, out of every nation under heaven. Now when this was noised abroad, the multitude came together, and were confounded, because that every man heard them speak in his own language. And they were all amazed and marveled, saying one to another, Behold, are not all these which speak Galileans? And how hear we every man in our own tongue, wherein we were born?”Acts 2:2-8

This had never happened before, but yet again, this was not a shock. Isaiah, the prophet said that with stammering lips and another tongues shall I pour out my spirit upon my people. SO what was it?

Here, it is. The shock of all shocks. The event that turned the tide forever. Before this God’s people were Israelite. That privilege was special and unique. They were the chosen. No other nation was included in that…until now.

“While Peter yet spake these words, the Holy Ghost fell on all them which heard the word. And they of the circumcision which believed were astonished, as many as came with Peter, because that on the Gentiles also was poured out the gift of the Holy Ghost.” Acts 10:44-45

By way of an act of creation, each Gentile in that room received what we receive the first time we believe Romans 10:9-10. The Gift of Holy Spirit. WOW! Now that was a shock. The devil had lost, not just the Jews but the Gentiles who believe as well. It was poured out on all mankind. The devil lost his authority and control! He no longer dictates what happens in our life. We have received great power and access, but how little do we know about it? Now is the time to learn about this wonderful gift and believe to use it in our lives.

God bless you today!